Forgetting and Moving On

From: Gabielle Gardner about School, Friend, Relationship, Dec 07 2014

Forgetting and Moving On

Hey, this is not something so serious, as it has not gotten seriously out of hand, but... yet it still bugs me from day to day. To sum it up, I became close to this girl in school, & soon we became "best friends," however, what I didn't know is that she had been spreading rumours, getting others to dislike me. Once I was put down to the bottom, she literally abandoned me, leaving me (in replacement for a girl of whom she claimed "hated me") & we just fell apart. Now that I think of it, I'm glad that she pulled away from me, as this made me realize everything that was going on & allowed me to see things clearly. I'm now able to stand on my two feet again, but she's not completely out of my mind. Like, whenever I'm at my lowest she'd it into my face, but really slyly, if that makes sense? I'm not sure how to put it into words, but I just can't find a way to just forget everything & move on when she's in all of my classes & I sit next to her in some of them. This problem's quite pathetic, but I really just wanna find a way of moving on? Love ya x <3

Anny

I'm sorry to hear that someone would treat you that way. I haven't been in that situation, but I have had to deal with haters. It is hard to understand. The hurt will probably never go completely away when you think about this situation or see this girl, but I feel like you are doing a good job moving on. Stepping back and seeing the relationship for what it really was, and accepting it is a mature thing to do. Moving forward, you surround yourself with friends that are positive and inspiring and that you feel you can trust. Friendships can make or break a person and real friends help you become the best person you can be. If you are happy, you are probably hanging out with the right group of friends. I think it is meant for us to never entirely forget a situation because we learn and grow from our trials and remembering helps us make good decisions moving forward. Stay strong. <3