Relationships

From: Joe about Love, Oct 18 2016

Relationships

Howdy! I recently became a fan of you after seeing your #ASaviorIsBorn video on YouTube along with other fellow LDS artists like Lindsey Sterling and The Gardiner Sisters. I don't know too much about you, aside from watching your video of the 28 things about you. Anyway, while clicking through stuff while learning more about you I came across this and thought "what the heck, I'm always in need of advice." A little about me is that I'm a hopeless romantic but cos of my trials and baggage, I don't have much confidence in establishing a relationship. I was bullied cos of my appearance so I have issues concerning my image and have depression too. I've tried to establish a relationship with other LDS ladies in their 20s like me but once they see my faults and weaknesses they end things before they get to know the real me. Pretty shallow, I know. Plus not living in Utah or other western states with lots of Mormons doesn't help me cos no one wants to do the long distance thing. Anyway I was wondering what a beautiful young LDS lady could give me some advice and encouragement for a guy who struggles with finding love in life.

Anny

My fans do know alot about me, but not everything. Sometimes I need advice too, and I have faults and weaknesses too! (We all do!) I'm sorry you were bullied in the past. If it is still affecting you and making you depressed, I recommend you talk to someone about it. The best relationship advice someone gave me once is to write a list of all the traits of your ideal partner. And then develop those traits yourself. Start gaining your confidence back. Start realizing all you have to offer and give. You are SO valuable and a son of God! He sees and KNOWS you and what you need. Lean to Him to comfort you and let your identity rest in Him! Learn to love yourself. Being genuinely happy and confident is very attractive! If you want to date only Mormons, can you move to an area where a lot of Mormons live? Find your true love and then decide together where you'll live-happily-ever-after. ;) I just want to emphasis how loved you are and how God has a plan for you! Pray for guidance in finding people you can open up to. Pray for those that have compassion and empathy and want to grow together!! Realize we ALL have baggage. There is this perception of perfection and I've felt it especially in the LDS world, but nobody is perfect and we are all flawed, but that doesnt make us any less valuable because God knows who we are and He wants us to see ourselves the way He does! <3