Self Confidence advice

From: Gladys

Public Speaking

Hi Tiff-Anny! Do you know how to be a person who can have confidence especially when speaking in front of people? Because that's what I experienced today. I always feel nervous and do not feel confident when speaking in front of people. And I always felt jealous of people who are confident and not nervous in front of crowds.

Anny

Gladys, Confidence takes practice. Even I still get nervous before I perform in front of lots of people, but the more I perform, the easier and funner it gets. Practicing your speech or performance in the mirror so you really know it will make you less scared when you do it. Then just put on a big smile and nobody will be able to tell if you're still a little nervous! Sometimes all it takes is putting on a brave face and the more you do the more it will feel real and the more comfortable you will be.

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From: Jenna

Help with anxiety & posting videos

Hi Tiffany. I'm a really shy person I kinda have social anxiety to you could say. And i really want to do YouTube videos but im afraid people in school might find out because it has happened a few times and im really scared. What do I do?

Anny

Jenna, I can see how you are conflicted and it is hard because people can be very rude. If you know what you love, go for it and do that. There are always gonna be haters and people that will make fun of you, I get it too! But you can't let them stand in the way of your dreams and what you love. If you want to post videos be proud and confident and show them that you are happy with what your doing. It can be scary, especially starting out, but if you remember WHY you want to make videos and focus on the POSITIVE comments and views that should matter more. And above anything else, do it for YOU, and forget everyone else. Side-note: if you're too scared to post videos maybe you find a way to be on the other side, to help film or create videos with others. :) Good luck!

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From: Samantha Gray

Overcoming Stage-fright

Hey Tiff! Samantha here. I've been wondering, how do you overcome stage-fright and accept/manage criticism?

Anny

It takes time, and practice. The more you do it the more comfortable and confident you'll become. When I had my first performance I was so shaky and nervous. I freaked out about every little thing and every little mistake. After the fact I would beat myself up over lyric slips or things that NO ONE ELSE NOTICED, haha. The sooner you learn to just go up and have fun, the better. Take a deep breathe and just do what you love, I promise it gets easier. As far as criticism, everyone these days is a critic, you will NEVER please them all and that's just how it is. So take the good with the bad and realize you can't make everyone happy. Listen to the love and shut out the noise of the criticism. If only ONE person love you, then do it for them. If you love it, then do it for you! ;)

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From: AJ B. PeÑ

how to be you

iam a 10year old. i want to idolized many people. but i cant because idont have self confidence

Anny

I can't tell you how to be me, but I can encourage you to be YOU! The more you appreciate your talent, and your life, the more confidence you will have. I don't sing to be idolized by many people, I sing because I love to sing! I think people are attracted to me because I'm happy being me! Find what you love and CHASE that!!

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From: Hussin

From a big fan

Hi tiffany how are you ? How was your start singing? Have you ever felt ashamed and fear in the beginning?

Anny

I have always loved singing. I sang in Sunday School and in school plays. I believe God gave me my talent, and that is why I love singing and sharing it! I think there is always some amount of fear when doing something you are unsure of. Anything NEW seems so scary, but the more you do something the more comfortable you get and the more confident you'll be! So have a little faith and be PROUD of what you love!

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From: William

Leadership and self-confidence

Hi Tiffany. I'm a person who likes to take charge in group settings, but I can only do so when my friends are involved. If my friends aren't in the group, I tend to freeze up, and I don't know what to do, but all my classmates know that I have good grades, and come to me, hoping to form a group or receive help. Placing me in a situation where I have to pick who to help, which makes me feel like I hurt the other people who I didn't choose. Presentations are the worst, as I'm very shy and nervous in front of crowds. Do you have any tips for helping to take charge and overcoming my shyness?

Anny

You sound like a super friendly, generous, helpful, person! Your friends are lucky! I'm not sure if the group setting you mentioned is for working as a group in the classroom on a class project or if the group is formed for help outside the school classroom setting. You are kind not to want to exclude anyone and that you care about their feelings. Maybe you could let those you didn't choose for your group know you will try to work with them on the next project. Remember that working with others you don't know well means you have a chance to make new friends, and that's a good thing! Since it's a group, make sure to make it a group effort so all the pressure isn't on you. Listen to and value everyone's ideas. That is what great leaders do. Listen, encourage, value, acknowledge, and collaborate. Everyone has a voice. When I write songs, the songs are always better when I work with other songwriters and we all bounce ideas off of each other. The more ideas, the better the concept or theme comes together. Helping others seems to come naturally to you. When you're giving a presentation, remember, it's a super efficient way to help a lot of people at the same time. Just take a deep breath and blow away the nerves. Can you ask some of the kids in the group to help and make the presentation with you? Or you could be in charge, like a movie director, as they do the presentation? It is also very, very true that "Practice makes perfect." You will get less nervous over time with each presentation. The normal pre-presentation butterflies are a good thing and keep you on your toes to do your best! ; )

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