Love advice

From: scott Dec 14 2014

My Girlfriend is Distant

I need help with my girlfriend. She doesn't talk to me as much as we have before, she says shes always busy and that she's going out of town every weekend. What do I do?

Anny

I know it's hard when relationships go through changes. Perhaps she is really busy or just needs some space. Try to realize she might be at a different place.Try giving her some time, while still being there for her, and see if you can gauge her interest and what she tries to put in the relationship. Perhaps you can try to see when she's available and schedule dates when she's free. Be flexible and see how things go. Either way give it time, give it some space, and try to breathe. If you notice you grow more distant and she is too busy to take time for you, then maybe it's not meant to be. It's scary when things aren't like they were, but in the end it works out how it's supposed to, sometimes together and sometimes not. <3

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From: Jess Dec 12 2014

Drunk Boyfriend

Well, my boyfriend, I love him, but he drinks alcohol and I just don't know what to do. He even forgets that I'm his girlfriend sometimes when he is drunk and says things to other girls. So do I break up with him??

Anny

The short answer is, yes, break up. It is hard for someone to be respectful to you when they are drunk. You want and deserve respect. You feel what he is doing is wrong, and you are right. A good relationship inspires each person to be the best they can be. If this is the best he can be for you, then it probably is't good enough. Hold out for someone that doesn't get drunk and will respect you all the time. Sometimes we might feel like we can change someone, If we act different or if we love them more, but usually that only hurts us in the long run. We can't change other people, we can only change ourselves and who we hang out with. When something inside you is asking questions, feeling uncomfortable, or doubting, that is your conscience, your inner spirit, telling you something isn't right. We need to realize it is time to make a change. Respect yourself enough to be in a healthy relationship.

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From: Robin Dec 22 2014

In Love, but is She?

Tiffany, what piece of advice can you give me with this matter? I'm so crazy in love with this girl, however, it has been complicated to talk to her. We have met a couple of times before and we talk on WhatsApp sometimes, but she doesn't seem to accept a date with me. She doesn't reject me either. What should I do next?

Anny

This is a tricky situation. It's always confusing when there isn't any clear signs as to if they're interested or not. I think if she hasn't accepted a date, she might just enjoy your friendship. I personally never want to reject someone, so I try to let them know I'm not interested as nicely as possible. If she ignores the topic or never answers, I feel that is a pretty big sign right there. If she was interested, she would jump at the opportunity, or be excited about it. I would just wait it out and be there as a friend. Sometimes girls just need time. I feel the best relationships are when you meet someone and they become your best friend and it naturally becomes more. <3

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From: Joe Oct 18 2016

Relationships

Howdy! I recently became a fan of you after seeing your #ASaviorIsBorn video on YouTube along with other fellow LDS artists like Lindsey Sterling and The Gardiner Sisters. I don't know too much about you, aside from watching your video of the 28 things about you. Anyway, while clicking through stuff while learning more about you I came across this and thought "what the heck, I'm always in need of advice." A little about me is that I'm a hopeless romantic but cos of my trials and baggage, I don't have much confidence in establishing a relationship. I was bullied cos of my appearance so I have issues concerning my image and have depression too. I've tried to establish a relationship with other LDS ladies in their 20s like me but once they see my faults and weaknesses they end things before they get to know the real me. Pretty shallow, I know. Plus not living in Utah or other western states with lots of Mormons doesn't help me cos no one wants to do the long distance thing. Anyway I was wondering what a beautiful young LDS lady could give me some advice and encouragement for a guy who struggles with finding love in life.

Anny

My fans do know alot about me, but not everything. Sometimes I need advice too, and I have faults and weaknesses too! (We all do!) I'm sorry you were bullied in the past. If it is still affecting you and making you depressed, I recommend you talk to someone about it. The best relationship advice someone gave me once is to write a list of all the traits of your ideal partner. And then develop those traits yourself. Start gaining your confidence back. Start realizing all you have to offer and give. You are SO valuable and a son of God! He sees and KNOWS you and what you need. Lean to Him to comfort you and let your identity rest in Him! Learn to love yourself. Being genuinely happy and confident is very attractive! If you want to date only Mormons, can you move to an area where a lot of Mormons live? Find your true love and then decide together where you'll live-happily-ever-after. ;) I just want to emphasis how loved you are and how God has a plan for you! Pray for guidance in finding people you can open up to. Pray for those that have compassion and empathy and want to grow together!! Realize we ALL have baggage. There is this perception of perfection and I've felt it especially in the LDS world, but nobody is perfect and we are all flawed, but that doesnt make us any less valuable because God knows who we are and He wants us to see ourselves the way He does! <3

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