Friend advice

From: C Apr 24 2015

Second Chances

If someone has done or said something mean to you....do they deserve a second chance?

Anny

When thinking about this question, I like to put myself in the other person's place. If I made a mistake, and I was sorry and apologized, would I feel I deserved a second chance. I think most people would say yes. Would you want someone to give you a second chance? True repentance means your friend will not repeat the same offense. Repentance can only work if someone is willing to Forgive. Forgiveness is an important characteristic to develop to help relathionships endure through hard times. If someone isn't really repentant, they will repeat the wrong, and then you will be justified to end the relationship.

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From: N5C6O2E Apr 24 2015

Self Destructive Behavior

If I see someone doing something that could seriously harm them, but they told me not to tell, what should I do? Should I tell someone or should I keep it a secret like they've asked me to?

Anny

This is a hard situation to be in. Because you care about this person, the very reason that you care, would be why you would tell someone. You need to find an adult you trust that can help the person you know. Caring nore about the person's well being is more important than keeping secrets. You may lose this person's friendship, but isn't that better than losing the person? You risk losing the relatiosship which is important to you, but "telling" in this situation is not breaking a confidence, you are protecting someone you care about.To me,this is what friends are for. Hopefully, in the end, they will thank you later for intervening. I hope someone would do that for me if they saw me on a destructive path,

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From: Gabielle Gardner Apr 26 2015

Forgetting and Moving On

Hey, this is not something so serious, as it has not gotten seriously out of hand, but... yet it still bugs me from day to day. To sum it up, I became close to this girl in school, & soon we became "best friends," however, what I didn't know is that she had been spreading rumours, getting others to dislike me. Once I was put down to the bottom, she literally abandoned me, leaving me (in replacement for a girl of whom she claimed "hated me") & we just fell apart. Now that I think of it, I'm glad that she pulled away from me, as this made me realize everything that was going on & allowed me to see things clearly. I'm now able to stand on my two feet again, but she's not completely out of my mind. Like, whenever I'm at my lowest she'd it into my face, but really slyly, if that makes sense? I'm not sure how to put it into words, but I just can't find a way to just forget everything & move on when she's in all of my classes & I sit next to her in some of them. This problem's quite pathetic, but I really just wanna find a way of moving on? Love ya x <3

Anny

I'm sorry to hear that someone would treat you that way. I haven't been in that situation, but I have had to deal with haters. It is hard to understand. The hurt will probably never go completely away when you think about this situation or see this girl, but I feel like you are doing a good job moving on. Stepping back and seeing the relationship for what it really was, and accepting it is a mature thing to do. Moving forward, you surround yourself with friends that are positive and inspiring and that you feel you can trust. Friendships can make or break a person and real friends help you become the best person you can be. If you are happy, you are probably hanging out with the right group of friends. I think it is meant for us to never entirely forget a situation because we learn and grow from our trials and remembering helps us make good decisions moving forward. Stay strong. <3

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From: pheep May 09 2018

Scared to open up

hi anny my name is pheep and i am scared to open up because im afraid of rejection and a laughing in my face or becoming rivals afterward

Anny

Opening up is scary when you don't already know and trust someone. Begin from neutral. Get to know people by being yourself and see and how they respond to you before you trust them or don't trust them. Everyone is always showing us by their actions how they feel inside too. So you can better gauge how they feel and open up when you feel safe. Sometimes it took me opening up and being vulnerable for someone else to open up to me.. They felt scared too but when you show them that you trust them, it's easier for them to feel safe to open up too!

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